10 QUALITIES of EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS: HOW TO IMPROVE YOURS
All relationships can be improved Here are 10 qualities of effective relationships. Choose a relationship you want to improve and then decide which of the following qualities that particular relationship needs to make it better. Start with that quality and give it your best effort. 1. Do for the other person what you would like that person to do for you. This is the Golden Rule of Relationships. It works. It overcomes obstacles and conflicts and creates miracles. 2. Let go of all expectations. Expectations kill relationships. Don’t keep reminding the other person what you “expect” them to do. Let love be what motivates them to act. 3. Love unconditionally. Let the other person know that you will love them in spite of their mistakes and behaviors. Let them know that nothing will keep you from loving them. 4. Accept the other person as is. Let your actions communicate to the other person this powerful message: “I accept you just as you are” 5. Keep learning about the other person. The more you know about the other person the more you can love them. Don’t pry, but ask questions about their interests, preferences, hopes and dreams. 6. Don’t try to change the other person. First of all, accept the fact that you can’t change anyone. They can only change themselves if and when they choose to do so. Your goal must never be to try and change them into the person you want them to be. 7. Always let go of the past. Never use the past against the other person. Let go of what was yesterday. Never hold grudges or seek revenge. There’s absolutely nothing you can do about the past. Focus on making the most of today. 8. Practice forgiveness. The other person is going to make mistakes as are you. Be willing to forgive and let go. Forgiveness heals. Refusing to forgive severely damages relationships. 9. Practice little random acts of kindness. Know all the little things the other person likes and then do them randomly. Let them be surprises. Nothing says “I love you” more. 10. Develop and maintains healthy boundaries. Kindly let the other person know what you will accept and what you will not in your relationship. This includes how the other person treats you. This helps the other person know better how to respond to you.